Divorce counseling · Online anywhere in Washington
You didn’t want this divorce. You still have to live through it.
When the marriage ends and it wasn’t your choice, you lose more than a spouse. You lose the life you were building, your daily place with your kids, and sometimes your sense of who you are. Most people try to push through it alone. You don’t have to.
If some of this sounds familiar
None of it means you’re weak or broken. It means you’re carrying something heavy.
- You keep replaying the last few years, looking for the moment you could have stopped it.
- You hold it together at work, then fall apart in the car.
- The house goes quiet on the nights the kids aren’t with you.
- You’re not sleeping, or you can’t get out of bed.
- You’re drinking, working, or scrolling more than you want to admit.
- Anger shows up out of nowhere, and you don’t like who you are when it does.
- People say “you’re better off,” and it doesn’t help at all.
This is grief. It just doesn’t come with a funeral.
An unwanted divorce is a real loss, and it’s often a lonely one. There’s no service, no casseroles, no time off. Many of us were never taught what to do with grief, so it comes out sideways: as anger, numbness, overwork, or a drink that turns into three.
Sometimes grief settles into something heavier. If you’ve lost interest in things you used to care about, feel hopeless most days, or can’t shake the thought that everyone would be better off without you, that may be depression. It’s common after divorce, it’s treatable, and it’s worth taking seriously now rather than later.
If you’re thinking about ending your life, please reach out right now. Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7), or call 911. You don’t have to wait for a therapy appointment.
Practical, direct, and at your pace
You don’t need to have the words for it yet. We’ll start with what’s hardest right now and build from there.
Steady the ground
Sleep, routines, and getting through the week. We’ll work on the thoughts that spiral at 2 a.m. and find what’s already helping, so you can do more of it.
Grieve what was lost
The marriage, the future you pictured, time with your kids, your role in the family. Naming those losses is how they stop running the show.
Rebuild
Co-parenting without getting pulled back into the fight. Figuring out who you are now, and what you want the next chapter to look like.
My work draws on Cognitive Behavioral, Solution-Focused, and Structural approaches.
What I won’t do
I won’t take sides in your divorce or tell you how to win it. I won’t tell you it’ll all be fine by next month. And I won’t make you sit through sessions that go nowhere.
What I will do is give you a place to say the things you can’t say anywhere else, and help you get your footing back.
If you’re still hoping to save it
That’s a normal place to be. If your spouse is still open to talking, we can look honestly at whether couples work makes sense. If the decision has been made, we’ll focus on you, because that’s the part you can change.
If faith is part of this for you, if you made a covenant you meant to keep, that belongs in the room too. We can bring it in as much or as little as you want. Learn more about Christian counseling.
Mark Bradbury, LMFT, MA, MBA
I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Before this work I spent years in healthcare management, ran a small business, and became an adoptive parent. I know what it’s like to carry responsibility when life doesn’t go to plan, and I know most people would rather talk to someone who’ll be straight with them.
Sessions are online, so you can meet from home, your office, or a parked car on your lunch break.
Common questions
Will insurance cover this?
Often, yes. Insurance covers therapy when there’s a diagnosable condition, such as depression or an adjustment disorder. Divorce by itself isn’t a diagnosis. More in my FAQs.
What if I’d rather not use insurance?
Private pay is $150 per session, with no diagnosis on your insurance record. If cost is a barrier, I offer a sliding scale on a case-by-case basis. You also have the right to a Good Faith Estimate of your costs.
Is this confidential if my divorce is contested?
Therapy is confidential, with limits set by law. In some custody disputes, records can be requested by the court. Ask me about this in your consultation so you know exactly where you stand before we begin.
I’m not really a “talk about feelings” person.
A lot of the people I work with aren’t, at first. We’ll focus on what’s getting in your way and what you want to be different. The rest tends to come when it’s ready.
You don’t have to figure this out alone.
A free 15-minute call is a chance to ask questions and see if we’re a fit. No pressure, no commitment.